The answer is

Saying NO

Lord, help me to use WISDOM...

Do you know when you learn how and when to use the word NO, in your vocabulary you make lots of enemy. But guess what, it’s a word that many of us need to learn how to use and apply. How many of you can testified that you are the go to person in your family or among your friends. When other has a question they come to you. When they have a need of financial assistance or other problems they come to you. But when you have a problem or in need of their assistance, they are busy.

For instance, I was speaking with a colleague and she was telling me how much other family has borrowed and never repay and she has difficult saying no. I said it’s just not you alone. There are many people in other family, including mines that just borrow and never repay, as well as some friends, who does the same thing. But when you have wisdom and use it wisely, they well get use to NO.

I was thinking that some family and friends thinks you always got it! So you can afford to help the, when they are in need. They feel a sense that you are obligated to them. But guess what you are not? Do they know of the word SACRICE! Yes sacrifice, is where you have to choose between what you can and cannot afford. What you can buy and not buy. It’s called not stretch your hands where you cannot meet and the list goes on. It’s where you put up for a rainy day etc.

Well I guess, they know, but they figure you will always be there. Don’t give me wrong. Yes you can help. But when help turns into “enabler”, you have a problem. In fact when you are a child of God, he teaches you how to use wisdom. Not every situation you need to fix. Some problems you just have to offer prayers and let the Lord work. If you can solve all your friends and family problems, then there is no need for God to work.

When we read Proverbs 6:1-5 it states, “my child, if you co-sign a loan for a friend or guarantee the debt of someone you hardly know -- 2 if you have trapped yourself by your agreement and are caught by what you said -- 3 quick, get out of it if you possibly can! You have placed yourself at your friend's mercy. Now swallow your pride; go and beg to have your name erased. 4 Don't put it off. Do it now! Don't rest until you do. 5 Save yourself like a deer escaping from a hunter, like a bird fleeing from a net. Amen. Wow that’s deep.

In my opinion, I believe your friend in the above passage can be your family as well. There are times, we put out so much that we have nothing left for ourselves. God does loves us and he want us to help others, but if we continue to enable them because we can’t say “no”, at some point we will become overwhelm. And that is not the life Christ has for us or our family and friends. He wants us to bless them but most importantly for them to have a relationship with him. For he is the Blesser of all blessings, and the provider of all. He never runs out of funding and he doesn’t worry when we would pay him back, because all things belong to him. Point Blank!!!

I don’t know your circumstance, but what I do know is you will have to learn how to say “no” to something. Yes, it will be hard, but in order for you to keep your peace you just have to do it. Just remember that people would be upset with you. Nevertheless, there are times you have to get rid of leeches. Those who only come to suck you dry. Don’t be fooled that God will be upset with you because you said “no”. The devil is a liar, in Jesus name, Amen. It’s your job to pray for them, but not your job to put yourself in expensive to bail them out. If you keep doing it, then there is no need for God to work because it appears that you have it under control. My advice to you is to go back to God and speak to him about your problem and allow him to work on you. Be blessed and learn how to use “no”, with wisdom.